To Pierce, or Not to Pierce

My name is Abbie, and I’m the only 23-yr old woman I know who does not have pierced ears.

Let me lay out the conversation we would probably have:

You: Never? Really? (you lean in closer to get a better look at my lobes)
Me: Never.
You: Well, why not? It just pinches for a second, it doesn’t really hurt at all.
Me: I don’t care.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting your ears pierced (if you’re old enough, but more on that later). I just don’t know that it’s for me. Plenty of my lady family members and friends have tried reasoning with me about it, one even tried to bribe me by offering to buy me a pair of nice earrings.  There are a number of reasons why I don’t have my ears pierced, and I usually have to go through most of them before I get my point across:

  1. I hate needles. Terrified of them. The thought of anything sharp being anywhere near any particularly soft or fleshy part of my skin is quite unnerving for me.
  2. My mom told my sister and me that we’d have to wait until we were 10 or something to get our ears pierced, when we’d be responsible enough to take care of them on our own. When Carmen turned 10 (I was 12), she wanted to get hers pierced, so we went to the Piercing Pagoda in the mall, where they proceeded to get the gun stuck on her ear for longer than a minute. No, thank you. 
  3. During my brief stint in softball, my coach told us we weren’t allowed to wear any type of earrings during practice or games. This was because a girl a few years older than us had been wearing stud earrings during a game, got hit in the ear with the ball while she was playing first base, and the stud punctured her skin behind her ear. The coach told us that each time her heart beat, blood squirted out. Gross; no, thank you. 
  4. I’m afraid of getting a hoop earring getting snagged on something and having it ripped out of my lobe.
  5. I don’t like seeing the little hole there when you’re not wearing earrings, and sometimes those don’t grow over very well.
  6. They seem like a hassle. I prefer to stay low maintenance with my look, since I’m usually trying to rush out the door to get somewhere in the morning, or want to just crawl in bed when I get home from class at after 11pm.
I’m sure they would probably look ok, but after waiting this long to do it, I think might prefer to go the clip on route. Perhaps I will wait as long as this woman did: Viola Arnold, a resident of Windsor, Ontario, didn’t get her ears pierced until she was 100 years old. Good for her, though. She seems adorable. I’m glad my mom didn’t go the route of so many young women around my age and get my ears pierced as an infant. That’s totally not cool. I’m sure people know your little girl is a girl with all the pink or princess themed clothes, but throw a pink headband on her if it’s not enough. I know a lot of people would say that it’s better to get it done while they’re young and won’t remember the pain, but you’re making a cosmetic decision about her appearance. What benefit does having your infant daughter’s ears pierced provide? None whatsoever. You’re piercing her ears for you, and I don’t think that’s fair. Wait until she can make that decision on her own. I think I would have been weirded out if, as a teenager, I had looked at my baby pictures and saw little butterfly shaped studs on my ears.
For now, I’m just fine not having pierced ears. If anything, I’m unique in that I don’t. I have seen some gorgeous earrings that I’ve considered getting pierced for, but I just can’t get past my reasons. There are really lovely clip-ons out there, however, and I wouldn’t be opposed to that. This pair from Kiel James Patrick are particularly nice, but then again, I love just about everything he makes.
So, this makes me wonder… how old were you when you got your ears pierced? Or, are your lobes still intact?

3 thoughts on “To Pierce, or Not to Pierce

  1. I did not get my ears pierced until my 21st birthday. My mother and grandmother to this day have never gotten their ears pierced, so other than some aunts, no one really even brought up ear piercing to me. Had I been a little wiser to the hygiene of the process, I probably would have gone somewhere a little fancier than Piercing Pagoda in the mall, but I seem to have survived unscathed. Thanks to my having lost most of my stud earrings (and to my discomfort when wearing them under a ski or bike helmet), I hardly even wear earrings now. I view earrings as optional, rather than mandatory, accessories.

    The one piercing I do miss is my nose ring, but I’ve sadly reached an age/life status at which it probably would not be wise to get it re-pierced.

  2. I have my ears stretched (I closed them some and am in the process of re-stretching, I forgot how not fun it is!) for over 8 years, I have 4 tattoos that’ve been touched up a few times, and one on my inner lip and I am TERRIFIED of piercing needles. I let my second holes close and have not have the balls to get them done again. Needles at a piercing parlor is supposed to heal better and be a lot better than the gun, but both scare me.

    I love my “earrings” when they’re in but I honestly rarely fuss with them, I don’t have time or care to match them to outfits even though I’d love to (thanks polyvore for cute outfits with cute earrings!). There are sooo many wonderful clip ons, I say go unpierced 🙂

  3. I was eighteen when I got mine pierced. My mom attempted to pierce them with a gun when I was about 10 and I was terrified. My mom and sisters always gave me a hard time because I had the same exact reason as you:) One day(almost a year ago)I was shopping at Claire’s and decided I would get them pierced (completely spur of the moment). I was nervous as heck but it was over quickly, not at all as bad as I thought. I think getting them pierced when your older is better so you can remember the experience and can make your own decision instead of being forced or guilted into doing it:) I now have 4 piercings:) its kind of addicting!

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